Thanks PH these were huge steps. He has never called me "honey" in 2 years. He has said IL you, when I say it first. First time in 2 years that h said IL you first and I know he really meant it.
It was as if the day should never end. Tried calling him today, since the kids were so excited and wanted to talk with him. No answer and no call back. This is the hard part. When he is away it's as if we don't exist. Not sure what to make of that. Any thoughts?
I am glad you said a thank you to your h. I did this tons in the beginning. Usually never a response, now he types out a sentence now and then. Did your h respond?
glam, It's really nice that he said ILY first. My H has not responded when I (rarely) said ILY (during physical intimacy). My H can't bring himself to feel anything because he battles with the pain of closeness when he wants to be separated.
I think he's temporarily withdrawing, which I hear is a normal thing after intimacy. The Men Are From Mars book mentions this too. I don't think you need to worry. Give him his space. They need to feel they are still in control of themselves and not lose control themselves (which they feel after intimacy). It's the "go in cave" thing.
I have said thanks tons of times. He usually doesn't respond. At he beginning, he used to thank me for the "sweet" note but that didn't last.
I wish my H would ask me on a date, glam.... Believe it ot not, I am still working (from home now).
