Another one joins the flock (Part II)

[Mike85]

Jack:

Thanks.

I give credit to the way I dealt with the day to DB techniques: listening more, resisting the urge to add my 0.02 to criticize the OM (even when W put it out there), acting "as if", playing it cautious. The only times I considered what I was doing as risky were when I stated my unconditional love and told her that I missed her. Those things *could* have backfired on me, but they came at moments that seemed appropriate, so I took the chance, and they paid off.

I don't think that W and I would have even HAD this day had I not gotten help from Michele's books and this board (and of course, Divine Intervention), and this day could have potentially have seen a lot of backsliding on my part. I was cautious and took things slowly. My efforts were genuine, and because they were consistent with everything I have said to her, our friends, etc., I think she realized that they were 100% genuine.

Like you said, Jack, "slow and steady." I won't blow today up into some massive reconciliation, but the positive steps definitely were there, and I'm still savoring them (the smell of W's perfume is still on me). I know that this roller coaster ride will probably have some rude shocks for me down the road, but today's memories are something I can hang onto for a long, long time and use for motivation.