H showed up at D15's marching band family night. I could smell alcohol on his breath. He came right after sending me an e-mail about wanting to go visit his best friend, but shared e-mails with his wife and it is "clear that he is not welcome there." These are the friends I visited last weekend. I assured him that he was wrong. There was no way that he "was not wanted there." It had to be a misunderstood e-mail. I urged him to call his friend. He said well, it will be hard to visit with wife there............the anger is returning. Probably due to my e-mail, but I don't care.
I just really don't understand this. H and his friend have been the very best of friends since they were children. It hurts me to see him think that he has to abandon his friendship. It hurts me to see him think that all of this makes sense----that there is anything that can be worth losing everything that has always been important. I wish there was something I could do for him, but I know I can't.
I really don't know who he is now.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
