btw, Karen, your response was fine. At some point, if he persists in this line of "reason" (and trust me, I use the term VERY loosely), I would love for you to say:
"So let me make sure I understand your position. You're saying that it's OK for you to bring your girlfriend around our children, so long as you LIE to them, and don't let them know she's your girlfriend? And if I tell them the TRUTH, I'm in the wrong here? Very interesting."
He's SO morally lost.
Thanks you guys so much!!! LO, thanks for letting me get it on record that I don't want him to do that. I'm going to followup when the kids' therapist and the L when they come back too.
Puppy, Wow!!! I love that--I'm kind of relieved that he let the discussion go with my last email it looks like, but if he continues to bring it up I will def. use that!!! Now I'm not dreading that talk at all--which I was!!! In fact, if he brings it up I would love to say that!!!
I mean he is so hypocritical--really worried and emailed me several times about our wedding picture in the house would damage our kids' psyche and I discussed that with the C (she thought it was fine), but then bringing the girlfriend around the kids and lying to them is ok. Such a good point!!!
He picked up the kids after their swimming today. He was already here when I got here, and we barely acknowledged each other. I came in and helped the kids get ready to go with H and then worked out for a little until they left. Made sure they had everything, and even said have fun when they left! That was probably too nice, I will try to do better next time. I read in this book I read last week one of the techniques with dealing with your ex- is the "Spock" technique which is basically acting like Spock (cool, unemotional, logical) when H is throwing a fit and I really love that idea! Karen
LO, thanks for letting me get it on record that I don't want him to do that. I'm going to followup when the kids' therapist and the L when they come back too. 