I wasnt going to post but...

[girlfromipanema]

That implies it wasn't him at all.

I'm so sorry too. You deserve so much better. I can't recall if you are seeing a counselor to help you through this. I think it would be very beneficial to you.

I took that as him saying he would tell his dad...? One thing I have learned is you can never really know what is going on in the spouse's head.