Positive developments?

[jon2911]

Wow, I'm surprised he kept those pics in there when you had his password. We guys can be pretty dumb.

I'm not responding to W. The weekend has begun, I'm going to hang out with a bunch of college friends, and leave W to her drama for a while. Happy Friday!

[LolaL]

I don't think he ever worried about it, because I respected his privacy. The thing is that when he left the house at 11:00 and at 1am still wasn't home, I knew there was someone else. Even when I sent him the text message that I knew, he didn't call. Swears he was sitting in the park all night (oh yeah, and I have a bridge in Brooklyn for sale...) They were not in the open, as a matter of fact they were in his sent folder. To this day, he tries to deny the A. Swears that he was never seeing her.

Have a great time this weekend!!!

[jon2911]

Had a fantastic weekend, lots of old college friends and staying up too late. Great time playing at church on Sunday. Wondered why I didn't hear from W at all, but she was with her family wedding planning, so didn't think it odd. Sunday night I checked a voicemail from a strange number, turns out W dropped her phone in the pool. LOL. She wanted to IM, so good thing I have an iPhone

Quick synopsis of conversation:

Me: So sorry to hear about your phone, I know that's frustrating
W: I feel naked without it
W: Why do all these hurdles keep coming? When will they stop?
Me: I can help you with them
W: Thanks *teary
W: I still need you and it scares me
W: You don't have to answer that
Me: You shouldn't have to handle everything on your own
Me: I can help you get an insurance replacement
W: How did your counseling go, why was it tough?


At this point, she pulled back and went into 3 hours of bashing me. I kept trying to go to bed, and should have just called it a night. But it was still a good talk. I talked with a mutual college friend of ours (sometimes I think he knows W better than I do), and his synopsis was this:

W played the role of mom for her family when her mom abandoned her in high school. She's been ultra-responsible and grown-up since then. A year ago, she got tired of acting like an adult, because she was forced into that way too early. I think my friend is right on, and I told W that. This is why her behavior right now shocks me so much, but I know this is just a phase.

Her "I still need you and it scares me" was HUGE. But I need to handle the pull-back better next time.

[jon2911]

Just had a nice talk with W. She has an old phone, which she's selling for her stepmom on Ebay. The auction closes next week, so she activated the phone for free and will use it until the insurance replacement comes in. The tongue-tied salesman waved the activation fee. Seriously, my W rocks.

I complemented her on making the salesman tongue-tied (W really is gorgeous, this happens a lot), and told her she should write a book called "My Life as an Ebay Mogul". It was a very fun conversation.

[maninmotion]

I really love it when my friends here are having success. It keeps the hope going.

Cheers Jon.

Dan

[LolaL]

Jon that sounds great!

[jon2911]

(((maninmotion))) (((Lola)))

Now, I need to find out about this weekend/anniversary. Maybe if she calls tonight?

[ms ladybug]

I wish I could remain as positive as you. Your wife said some really nice things...but then gave you the 3hr bashing session.

I get those 3 hr bashing sessions as well. In it, my h might say that he loves me, but I can't see the positive in it the way you do.

[LolaL]

Sheesh I wish I could even get I like you...

[jon2911]

ms b,
Just part of the pull-back. Saying "I need you" is incredibly scary for the WAS. In fact, she's never said that in a year. I'm just glad I have ya'll (Texas phrase), because otherwise I wouldn't know what to do.