Completely and utterly devastated--how to cope

[istherehope]

Hi,

I don't know if I was withdrawn or not! That's the problem...he said there was no intimacy, but DB coach said I was smothering him. So I take it as I was controlling, but not being open.

It is sort of a forced move back in 2 months due to my assignment. DB coach said only to be prepared that things might not go as I want them to as quickly as I might want. She did seem to think that separations weren't necessarily a good thing though. I am definitely moving back, but if he's not ready, I will ask him to move out in this case.

Hmm what do I really think...I've never had a good response with a letter, but I've never given one to my own husband before, I can't think of another way to get through to him. OK maybe I'll shorten it, and then ask my DB coach what she thinks of the abbreviated version on Wednesday. I'll also post the new one tomorrow with more focus on his own needs, and less about my issues...

Thanks so much!

ITH