Fantastic!!!! Your H is opening up to you in so many ways. IMHO, keep doing exactly what you have been doing. Live your life and be happy on your own but be open to the possibilities of your M.
You are doing amazing!
I know for certain I don't remember how to kiss properly (let alone anything else!). It's been too long! You got in a good refresher course!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
you've done great, what a Breakthrough!!! I'm so happy for you!
Thinking of you, ((((HUGS)))).
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
WOWOOWOWOWOW!!!!! I have to say, I am too amazed at this news, this from the guy who has done a good job of acting like he was no longer interested in you. This is incredible, you must be thrilled !! Whats your plan to do next (or do nothing?)...and all this happened on the eclipse !!??? I'm sensing very good things will come of this, either way! Majorly chuffed for you Essie,
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Thank you all so much for your lovely messages. It is so nice to tell you, cause I have a feeling that my real life friends and family would be horrified that I kissed him back!!! Its our secret. Ha ha!!
So two days and two nights and no word from H. I would just like to say that the kissing was pretty intense and SOOOOOO nice. Thank goodness I have long since given up trying to work out what he might be thinking. I am determined that I will wait at least two weeks before initiating contact. Just want to write that here to stop myself in a moment of weakness. If he wants me he knows where I live, my phone number and my email!!! It is so tempting to fill in the silence and make it easy for him, but then I know that he needs to chase me and work for me, if I'm ever going to hook him.
I have already planned my weekend for fun things on friday, saturday and saturday night. If he wants to see me Sunday I might be able to squeeze him in!!
I think it's a cunning plan to back off and let H think about what happened for a while. Two weeks though? Maybe 1 week? He seems to respond when you tentatively make a bit of contact.
Hope you're having a super-fun weekend already. And I hope the future is working out perfectly!!
Well, I think you should contact him within the 2 weeks..you kissed on the eclipse right? And there is another follow up corresponding eclipse on 16th August. Its a lunar eclipse in Aquarius, linked to dreamy Neptune (or delusional, depends which way you look at it!). Then the next good date is 30th August -a New Moon conjunct Saturn - whats set in motion that day is set in stone for years to come!
So, I vote for contacting him next Friday/Saturday at the latest.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Have been thinking lots this week. About respect, trust, forgiveness and the biggest issue of all. Do I want to reconcile with H if it means I have to give back 1/2 of the wardrobe space?!?! ha ha
So H sent me a text message Friday night. I was out (made sure I was very busy this weekend, not sitting around thinking of H) and didnt reply till Saturday. Then today (Sunday) I sent H a text asking if he could give me a lesson on changing light bulbs. He popped over - I looked hot, but he didn't stay very long, cause he was running late to go wakeboarding with the next door neighbour.
I think he asked me out on a date though. In a bit of an awkward way which was very cute. He said to keep Friday the 22nd free, but he would confirm the date, so maybe he is planing something nice?? I said that it would be very nice to go out with him, and he looked relieved! Ha! He also asked if I wanted to go out to dinner tonight, but I said I already had plans. No kissing..... bummer!! I think he wanted to though! Definitely feels like there is a lot of sexual tension in the air!
I think I will ask him if I can watch him wake-board next Sunday, if he doesnt initiate any more contact....
H's text and the get together on the 22nd sounds so exciting- I can't wait to find out what he's organised. Do you have any hints? What are you going to wear?!!
Shame about the lack of kissing, but it's so great that there's some tension in the air. Not surprising, though, since you're so SUPER-HOT!!
((((((hugs)))))) thinking of you. I hope the wake-board experiment goes well, and keep posting. I love hearing kissing news!!
Essie, this is AWESOME!!! He asked you out on a date???!!! awkwardly!!???!!! there was lots of sexual tension???!!!???? I loved how he looked relieved when you said it would be very nice to go out with him.... and watching him wakeboard sounds hot too! Do you wakeboard, or is that more his thing? Your news fills me with so much hope for HUMANITY AS A WHOLE.
If you're into it, I would love to hear some of your reflections about respect, trust, and forgiveness. Sometimes i don't post that much when I am really doing heavy reflection but I think that is when some of the deepest transformation is happening.
Thank you SO MUCH for all your thoughtful observations on my situation!!
