Nice to hear from you. My plan to go to Poland is utterly and entirely due to him wanting to separate. In fact we were trying to plan a move back to the US before the bomb...Now I am just content to be anywhere that he wants to be. I am not being a doormat, but he has literally moved from the US to London to Dublin for me...
So I will be there from Thursday through mid-October. That said, it works fine with my current job. It is not a benefit to my career, but is just sort of putting my career in limbo, just like my marriage.
I chose this route because it gave me a bit of control. I know everyone on this board is screaming at me about control, but it at least makes us have a check-in point in the separation. I know myself, and I will not be able to be in indefinite limbo without some kind of checkpoints along the way. I'm scared, terrified that while I'm gone he will love the single life and not want to be with me anymore. I'm scared that I will come back in October and he will feel like he cannot breathe...yet here we are. If he moved out, I wouldn't have been able to say that I was doing something for myself. Now I am doing something for myself and at the very least, worst case scenario, I will always be able to say that I lived and worked in Poland even if at the end of this I don't have a husband, God forbid...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
