I found some yummy cheese!

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Lost- well he goes out w his cop friends and it is just non stop...really bad for all of them. he said recently he should listen to me and stop or at least drink water in between...so the bigger picture is that we go to events that involve partying and one thing she has brought up is that isnt good for us or our lifestyle- party hardy (i dont- very rarely do i need alcohol to be crazy)...then its just a mess. i guess we need to find more ways to have fun without that intense drinking scene...

He works out very hard- i mean insane amount of bike riding..and running so he is very healthy. he doesnt go to a C that i know of- highly doubtful. so one thing i was able to say early in our sep was "hey, when im down in the dumps and i drink it makes it worse, just take care of yourself"...so he has brought it up to me a lot since then.

solutions are:
limit drinks w drinking buddies
participate in healthy activites like hiking, biking, runing,etc.
not react if he does drink
SHOW him by my lead that we dont need to go to huge parties where the temptation is too high.

i guess i am wavering on his trust of this bc he has slipped once during our sep- not my issue- but he went to a friends wedding an proceeded to tell me how drunk he got...i think he was telling on himself. weird.

TD- glad to hear that it is a work in progress. sounds like you had a similar issue- but it works out bc you dont react and are very clear. i also like the idea of the next day- then they feel even worse bc you didnt get on their case and they have no excuse.