You need to use your judgement as to how involved you want to be in his apartment search. I wouldn't feign disinterest if the results concern you. For example, if he chooses a place that is difficult for you to get to, it is better to have your input early, rather than complaining all year that he made choice that is difficult for you. Admittedly, he likes to have his hand held, but it's better for you to hold the hand than OW. And hand holding is not commitment. As a realtor, I hold plenty of hands to help people through the moving process. That doesn't mean that we have love relationships after. Some people just need the reassurance that they are making a decision they won't regret.
