You can read my sitch on DQ's first "sex blog", but I will start a thread very soon in which I will be asking for some advice, especially from the women on the board.
By the way - the cage thing comes from:
"Wild Things in Captivity
By DH Lawrence
Wild things in captivity while they keep their own wild purity won't breed, they mope, they die.
All men are in captivity, active with captive activity, and the best won't breed, though they don't know why.
The great cage of our domesticity kills sex in a man, the simplicity of desire is distorted and twisted awry.
And so, with bitter perversity, gritting against the great adversity, they young ones copulate, hate it, and want to cry.
Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can't take place. Break the cage then, start in and try."
A very multi-layered poem that requires several readings.
As does another of his:
"Self Pity
I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself."
In other words, simply to have been alive is the greatest gift of all? I think.
By the way, Alimari - I think Bagheera is right - don't let things get too one-sided. And don't be too nice - it doesn't just apply to guys you know. You are fire (not jello and custard) so let him get burned now and again.
All the best,
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
