I know exactly what you are talking about. My W has had binge problem off again on again for a long time. It seems she has a very hard time limiting herself. For years I built up resentment to this behavior to the point where I didn't even want to go out and socialize with her....mainly because everytime I would suggest that maybe she has had too much to drink I would get my head bit off. The she built up resentment because I didn't want to socialize with her.
In the months leading up to our sep, she would go out with her friends and stay out to 2 AM and come back very wasted. It was also very unnerving since I never knew what her mood was going to be when she got home. A couple times she actually did some damage to the garage.
She does try to work on this problem and ebbs and flows. I have noticed that since getting back together she has made an effort to curb it. She is no longer the last one to leave the get together. Unfortunately around here it is very much part of the culture.
It is great that he has recognized the problem and is taking steps. If this is something he as done a while don't be surprised to see him be on a rollercoaster with it (ie. being good for a while then tieing one on every once in a while). Be prepared to be flexible.
You have to decide if you want to set formal requirements for his return or if you are will ing to let his actions speak for themselves.
It sounds like right now as far as the kids issue goes you are ok if you never have any and would be willing to have one if he wanted one. Just be prepared to accept not having one down the road if your ambitions change. This is a biggie and usually something people discuss prior to marriage. Did the two of you have initial plans when you got married?
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
