Completely and utterly devastated--how to cope

[pisces9]

ITH- what i mean by being careful going totally dark- is that of course you make plans for yourself..and if he tries to contact you 3 times thats a good sign..as long as you called him back. i was confused by this at the beginning and my DB coach said to keep the communication alive...she told me if my H feels like a schmuck he will not stick around..so maikng him purusue me to death wasnt going to work with my H. now some H's are like that and this technique does work....im not sure what your H is like- but it sounds like he wants to be with you...so keep that up. show him your changes.

when you planned to move was thie before the Bomb? was he going to move with you? just tryoing to get clarity here..

thanks