HI Dar, if your not ready to take your C advice then don't but remember she has lots of experienec and probably seen "this" hundreds of times. Maybe you are just not ready to hear it. Everyone has been telling you for ages to work on you and leave him alone. You are so much better when you do.
I think your h is probably a nice guy at heart and is trying to tell you things without actually saying words that will break your heart.
Everyone is different, everyone has a slightly different story but basically they are nearly all the same. Let go of your H, concentrate on you, Do you want to be in the same place 5 years from now, watching for baby steps, thrilled if he has been nice to you? Is that all you are worth to yourself. Hanging on his every word,looking for a small act of kindness from him like a young puppy.
You are more than capable of looking after yourself and daughter you prove that. Look at how you coped with your job loss, did you wallow poor me or the job market is dah de dah, no you took care of it, yes you had some luck but by and large we make our own luck,by determination and a need to want to help ourselves.
So what is Dar going to do for Dar? What does Dar's life look like 1-2-5yrs from now. YOU Dar have the power to decide it. It is not dependant on your husbands paultry babysteps or his own personal crisis MLC whatever.
Fear will keep you on this merry go round for years if you let it. It is easy to be a victim, its hard to start living your life for you and your d. The rewards are huge and liberating and exciting. Not want we planned or hoped for but new and different and full of unclaimed happiness.
What you going to choose Dar, how much life can you waste? Hugs to you. Take care.
