K just broke up with her BF a couple of months ago and had to get a restraining order on him last night. Seems she was at a going away party for one of her roommates that's moving to TX. XBF came in and saw her sitting with a guy friend that she's known since kindergarten and started lipping off to her. Then he pushed her!!! Her guy friend took it upon himself to beat the snot outta him and she called the police.
She's gonna make my hair go gray!!!
Ohhhh, good news, her Dad actually came up with some money for her.
She has some awesome guy friends that she's known since grade school and they've always been very protective of her. I LOVE those guys!!! The guy that beat up her XBF told him that if he even so much as hurt her feelings he'd kick his a$$ again.
I'm just glad that she's done with him. From what she said this is the only time he ever got physical with her but she did say that he got really beligerant when he drank and that's why she broke up with him in the first place.
OK, off to shower, pack up this roomful of stuff for camping and then on to a glorious wilderness weekend. Oh, did I mention they have JET SKIS at this place!!! This might be great after all!!!
Well praise the Lord! I for 1 have already heard way more about her "damp thingy" then I ever cared to.
Be careful on the wave runner, but if you capsize and have to swim to a deserted desert Island, I hope there is a soccar ball that has washed ashore. That way you can paint a face on it and call it Beth, giving you me the fantasy of still having me to talk to, and giving me a break!
K, has a great head on her shoulders. She did exactly the right thing to protect herself., but like I said to Barb, we will always worry about them.
....and dear old Dad coming up with money? What's up with that?
K (D23) just called me sobbing. She's so upset about everything, hates herself, her life, etc........
She's so upset that XBF is hurting. She is a very compassionate person and knowing that he's hurting and in his apt just 2 floors up from her is very upsetting to her.
I did my best to calm her down and she does understand that him pushing her was over the top but she doesn't understand how their R has come to this. Unfortunately, most of us here get it......
She's concerned about money, school, health insurance, our R, etc. I told her, let's concentrate on the stuff we can do something about which is all of the above.
One thing I do have to focus on is that she said that she doesn't like what she's become....I think she has some things to come clean on to me and it probably has to do with things that she hasn't lied about but hasn't been upfront about either. Sound familiar, Bethie?
This behavior is so unlike K. She's usually so happy, positive, upbeat and fun. That's the 50% she gets from me. Unfortunately, the 50% she gets from her Dad seems to be prevailing at the moment. Have I mentioned lately that I don't like him?
She wanted to come home for the weekend but knew I had plans so now she's worried that my cell won't work in the woods. I assured her that if she left a message I would get to civilization several times a day to make sure she was OK.
Outta here.........hopefully!!!! Have a great weekend everyone.
Have fun, Jill!!! And, just in case you didn't notice . . . even after the things you've told us here about your relationship with your daughter, YOU are who she called. And it wasn't necessarily for money, or furniture, or moving help. It was to trust you for support.
sorry things kinda suck right now. I thought once we got off the roller coaster, we'd just be on the ferris wheel or something, but it seems more like the tilt n whirl...
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And....speaking of depression. It took me about 8 mos to wean myself off of the antidepressants. I was on them for about 5 yrs (started them while still M'd to X). I've been off of them for about 9 mos now. So, how do I know if this is just a temporary setback or if I should consider taking them again. I DON'T WANT TO TAKE THEM AGAIN......EVER!!!!
I hear you. And you have enough going on that this could just be a temporary thing that you need to give yourself time and space to get thru. I feel the same way about the ADs and about 6+ months ago, I weaned myself down to the level I started at 4 years ago and found myself not wanting to titrate back up... so unfortunately, this being not necessarily 'my' time of year, I've been faced with that and have been really stubborn and struggling. But I finally decided earlier in the week that maybe it was the right thing to do so I did... guess more than anything I just wanted to tell you I totally understand why you feel the way you do.
Also, I use my reactions to my kids as a barometer... if I recognize that I am short with them on a consistent basis, I titrate up... but this time, I recognized my struggles before it really affected the kids.
Enough of that. More than anything I just wanted to stop by and say hello and I'm sorry about your dad and I'm thinking of you!!
sorry things kinda suck right now. I thought once we got off the roller coaster, we'd just be on the ferris wheel or something, but it seems more like the tilt n whirl...
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And....speaking of depression. It took me about 8 mos to wean myself off of the antidepressants. I was on them for about 5 yrs (started them while still M'd to X). I've been off of them for about 9 mos now. So, how do I know if this is just a temporary setback or if I should consider taking them again. I DON'T WANT TO TAKE THEM AGAIN......EVER!!!!
I hear you. And you have enough going on that this could just be a temporary thing that you need to give yourself time and space to get thru. I feel the same way about the ADs and about 6+ months ago, I weaned myself down to the level I started at 4 years ago and found myself not wanting to titrate back up... so unfortunately, this being not necessarily 'my' time of year, I've been faced with that and have been really stubborn and struggling. But I finally decided earlier in the week that maybe it was the right thing to do so I did... guess more than anything I just wanted to tell you I totally understand why you feel the way you do.
Also, I use my reactions to my kids as a barometer... if I recognize that I am short with them on a consistent basis, I titrate up... but this time, I recognized my struggles before it really affected the kids.
Enough of that. More than anything I just wanted to stop by and say hello and I'm sorry about your dad and I'm thinking of you!!
Julie
Interesting mention about your kids, Julie. That is exactly as my sister has done and why she got on some in the first place. She wasn't liking how she was reacting to her kids. She knew it wasn't right and went to the doctor.
