I know, and I told her that as well. But she said that MLC or not, 2 years is along time to keep me waiting. I'm not sure if I'm convinced she specializes in MLC then. I'm just sooo hurt and upset, I can't stop the tears while I'm at work.
What do you think about H? Do you think he's done for real, or just venting?
On the other hand, two years is not a long time in the life of an MLCer.
Well, you know me and my beliefs and everything happens for reasons we are sometimes unaware of and everything happens in God's perfect timing.
Maybe God is not ready to bring him home yet. What do you want to do?
It is easy to give advice but you have to do what is in your heart. Just don't let anyone talk you into something you are not comfortable with.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I meant to add that if you are seeing progress, even if it is small baby steps, this is a positive. But how you choose to deal with this whether that means taking your C's advice or being still for now, is up to you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm not going to take C's advice, since in my heart I don't think H is ready to hear that kind of choice. However, when I brought up us talking, he snapped and said he's done. I can't tell if he's really done now or if he was just letting off steam. I'm very sad and not functioning too well today because of this.
I think he feels pressured. Lay low for awhile and give him some space. Now you know what the C advised is not right for your situation at this moment.
As Holly used to say, Be Still.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm not so sure laying low will help. He's obviously ticked off for some major reason. I'm totally crushed at the moment and keep crying! Why can't I just let him go and live my life for me yet??? Geez!
Okay then it is time to be still and allow God to work on him. Every time he gets mad, try not to get upset. Anything could have sparked a nerve.
He will get over it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I hope so SF, I really hope so! Things seemed to have been going SOOOOO well, and now this snafoo? It stinks! Thanks for making sure I calm down, when you're also going through the same thing. I feel selfish, but very grateful for everyone here!
It does seem to go in spurts. Things are going quite well and then it seems as if they are going the opposite direction.
When I did not hear from H last week (Monday thru Friday), I, too, thought he was mad at me and I asked him. He was calm and said no, not at all. I then said to him that since he had no contact with me or the kids, he must not have missed us or thought about us and he said that was not true at all.
It just proves that they do think of us, especially when we think they don't.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
