Hi Nit, I hope you are sleeping. I hope you manage the grass, hard work I am sure but physical exercise does help the mood and if you feel your thoughts slipping towards the x maybe apply some stop tactics. I found when I struggled with jobs that h had done some anger creeping in and thats not always a bad thing. It helps to motivate us. Be proud of what you acomplish alone even if it's not as good a job as it used to be.Treat yourself to a long buble bath and light some scented candles whatever you consider a treat. Now is the time to pamper yourself.
Glad the holistic vet is helping, my old fella had acupuncture for his lameness, the first few treatments really helped but eventually he had a major op and a steel plate in his leg, but now his front leg has nerve damage and they think its a tumour! not good news. Whilst he is eating and not in pain I am not ready to make any major decisions,when the time comes I will.
Time for me to get moving with my day. I am sending you good vibes and strength just for today. One step at a time,one day at a time. Breathe, slowly and deeply and let go of all the things you have absolutely no control of. (((()))))
Thank you! I will pray that his eyes will be opened. I'm just still in shock that he did this so quickly.
My dogs are a comfort to me! Dogs are great & they will give you unconditional love no matter what you feel like. They make me get up in the mornings. This morning I probably would have stayed in bed but they had to go outside & wanted to eat.
I'm sorry about your dog being gone, I know how that is to loose one.
Thanks for checking on me, I'm really having it rough right now.
Have you checked out the Charlyne Cares Q&A? I think you will find it very helpful as it will help you to deal with what you are going thru from a Biblical perspective.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well, I didn't get to sleep until after 2:30 this morning, I took something with PM in it so I would sleep & that helped. I'm really tired today & my chest hurts, I think it is depression. When all this first started my chest hurt, I went to the doctor he ran an EKG & said everything was fine that is was the stress & depression.
I'm going to try to get myself going & get a few things done today. I hope I will anyway. I've got dishes piled up in the sink that I just haven't felt like doing anything about it. I know I have to snap out of it but this really hit me like a ton of bricks.
I really like this holistic vet, I do feel like it is helping. I'm sorry you dog may have a tumor, that is terrible!! They told me yesterday that my dog wanted some supplements that was for cancer treatment, that scared me. But then she wanted something else & he said that was a good sign. He doesn't know for sure if she has cancer but he thinks the thyroid is causing more problems right now. That is why he is doing the blood work. He had to send it off so I won't know anything until next week.
Thank you for sending me the good vibes! I sure need them right now. Before when all this first happened I had to talk to everyone, this time I don't feel like talking to anyone except for you guys on this site. I know I have to let go, it's just hard!! I just never dreamed that I would never see him again. There is still a lot of his things still here. I just always thought he would be back, I still can't imagine my life without him. He is my family!!
It has questions in there with answers and Bible verses for your exact situation.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I can not even begin to imagine the pain you must be feeling right now. I am so sorry.
I can tell you however that when a relationship begins with lies and is immoral and adulturous, then it thrives without God's blessing.
For you, right now, you need to let your Husband go.
Pray for him from a distance, but leave him alone.
Continue to work on yourself and most of all work on forgiveness. Just a little bit each day, it will take time!
Sending you huge (((hugs))) and prayers.
BND XXX
The Enemy Tempts Us To Lie! -
"Everyone lies to his neighbor; their flattering lips speak with deception. May the LORD cut off all flattering lips and every boastful tongue that says, "We will triumph with our tongues; we own our lips—who is our master?" Psalm 12:2-4
Do you always tell the truth or just a few "white lies?" What is your spouse doing regarding telling you the truth? Do your children know the difference between telling the truth versus lying to you, to their friends or to their teachers? Do you think our society has accepted "white lies" as part of life, as being acceptable and quite normal? What do you teach your children or possibly employees or what does your employer ask you to say, "I am not here" when, in fact, you are in the office? Are we teaching our children it is all right to lie? Ask the Lord to examine your own heart before you start telling me all about your husband's or wife's lies.
"Test me, O LORD, and try me, examine my heart and my mind; for your love is ever before me, and I walk continually in your truth." Psalm 26:2-3
What does the Lord say about lying?
"There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers." Proverbs 6:16-19
There is a scripture that I use to remind you to "zip your lips," but let me use this Bible verse today to remind you not to ever fall into the temptation to start lying because of your marriage problems. The enemy will lie to you by telling you that is it all right to tell "white lies." What did the devil tell Eve in the Garden in Genesis? What happened to her and Adam? Beware of the tricks and schemes of the enemy who is tempting you to fall into sin by different ways in just one day!
"Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD: keep watch over the door of my lips. Let not my heart be drawn to what is evil, to take part in wicked deeds with men who are evildoers; let me not eat of their delicacies." Psalm 141:3-4
I pray that you and I will always have the fear of the Lord so we do not blatantly sin against the Lord with our tongue daily.
"Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies. Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it." Psalm 34:12-14
My heart's desire is for you to know that the Lord is your Defender and Protector during your struggle of marriage problems which may include children problems, financial or employment issues. You may not see with your visual eyes God's protection with warrior angels, but they are there with you. (Read 2 Kings 6:8-23)
You and I can start in the Book of Genesis, Chapter 20, when Abraham called Sarah his sister and Abimelech king of Gerar took her, but God protected Sarah.
"But God came to Abimelech in a dream one night and said to him, "You are as good as dead because of the woman you have taken; she is a married woman." Now Abimelech had not gone near her, so he said, "Lord, will you destroy an innocent nation? Did he not say to me, 'She is my sister,' and didn't she also say, 'He is my brother'? I have done this with a clear conscience and clean hands." Then God said to him in the dream, "Yes, I know you did this with a clear conscience, and so I have kept you from sinning against me. That is why I did not let you touch her. Now return the man's wife, for he is a prophet, and he will pray for you and you will live. But if you do not return her, you may be sure that you and all yours will die." Genesis 20:3-7
Remember, Ananias and Sapphira (Acts 5) who lied to the church about their giving? God considered this a lie against the Holy Spirit and as they lied, they both died. I know you will remember many other Bible stories that teach us the principles that you and I need to apply to our daily lives regardless of our circumstances. Peter who was so close to Jesus, said he would die with his Lord, yet he lied to three different people denying he knew his Lord before the rooster crowed. Can you imagine Peter denying his Lord? How often do we do that ourselves and then get convicted by the Holy Spirit? Remember, the enemy deceives and tempts us and we must know the enemy's tricks and schemes. (John 18)
Today, examine your own life, before you point your fingers at your spouse who was tempted and started lying to birth the sin of adultery. While your spouse is committing adultery, they have had to tell lie upon lie, to hide their sins. You and I must know that God will expose their sin in His timing.
You must be very careful that you do not lie for all different reasons throughout your normal day. Remember that the enemy will convince you that they are justifiable reasons. Sin is sin and lying is lying. Beware, the enemy is not deceiving and tempting you to fall into sin. How many people do you know or justify lying on their tax return? Cry out to your Lord, right now to cleanse your heart from lies that have been birthed during your marriage, separation or divorce.
"I call on the LORD in my distress, and he answers me. Save me, O LORD, from lying lips and from deceitful tongues." Psalm 120:1-2
How does the enemy get a foothold in so many marriages? The answer is easy, by lying and deception. We teach our children not to lie from an early age, but what are they observing? Parent, are you able to look at your child and know when they are not telling the truth? I used to be able to look at our children straight in their eyes and could tell if they were lying to me. God can do the same!
I pray that you will start praying against the lying spirit that is attacking your spouse and may be attacking you. May each of us pray for all prodigals of all ages to know the truth and that the truth will set them free. Satan is speaking lies to your spouse every day. Satan deceived Eve and he is out to deceive you and destroy your spouse. Pray that your spouse will realize that they have been deceived and are in a trap and the only way out is to cry out for Jesus, who will become their Savior.
"Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will." 2 Timothy 2:25-26
"Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say. You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies." John 8:43-44
"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." John 10:10
Remember, that Jesus Christ is the answer. He has the only answers for you and for the healing and restoration of your marriage. Pray against the lying spirit and ask the Holy Spirit to start convicting your spouse of the lies and the tangled web they have had to weave to live in their sin. Ask the Holy Spirit to speak to every family member in your home to be convicted to repent and ask forgiveness of anyone telling lies. You must build your marriage on the foundation of God's Truths, not with lies that will only crumble in time. Are you changing to be more like the Lord? What is the truth?
"If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John 8:31-32
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Hi Nit, hope the dishes get done, it does seem mundane but if we can have our living area's clutter free it does help with our mood and feeling of being overwhelmed.
Set yourself very small tasks. Be tolerant of yourself, this will take more than a few days to get over--BUT you will. Try to block the thoughts but if you really can't let stop them,let them come but try just observing them like an outsider would. Allow yourself x amount of time to weep etc then stop. Start a new chore or whatever.
Let your xh go, pray for him from a distance if you want to like BND says. For now accept he is gone from your life as in being your husband but one day you may see each other again, we have no way of knowing. Far far too early to even contemplate that. You are the most important one now. The less you hear about him the better.
He made his choice, you may not agree with it, you and everyone may tell you it is not a good choice and that he's not happy or his m won't last. That is not your concern, it will keeep you trapped and afraid IF you go that route.They are probably trying to make you feel better but ultimately it feeds you false hope. Don't let thoughts of this man and his marriage rob you of anymore of your life and happiness. You deserve so much more than a coward who hadn't the common decency to tell you.
People can say it's his guilt etc, tell them to stop for it is not your concern. It will keep you trapped.
I know you will not feel like going out socially, but try to walk the dogs maybe and just soak up the goodness and beauty of your surroundings. Watch a butterfly simple pleasures, smile at strangers.
Make yourself a simple meal but maybe set the table for it with a single flower,any of the earths simple beauties will help to restore your soul.
Sending you hugs. Hope the blood tests results are good.
