I've ARRIVED> WHEW - I am just exhausted! Could have used a couple more days at home but here I am!
So I cleared the view to the tv and put some bedding back on the bed. That will suffice until the carpet guys are done tommorrow. I just want to bring order to this chaos!
Brandon (son) emailed to say that he and his friends are coming up for a visit in 2 weeks. He doesn't know that I won't be here. (or maybe he does - LOL!). He has a friend flying in from out west so they're going to pick him up and head north. I think they'll be so surprised at the changes.
Ash seems ok. Seems fine with her decision. I will call her shortly to be sure. She was volleying the entire time I was home. I was home for 45 hours and she broke up with him 3 times and got back 3 times. During that time we went to the funeral and her friends disowned her twice. It is much more peaceful at the cottage. I left my babies (kitties) at home this time. Thought it would be good for her. I'm missing them terribly already though.
Josh offered to pick up dinner on his way north tommorrow. That will be good because we have a ton of work to do putting the furniture all back. I'll be glad when its Sat.
Hey Barb What color is the carpet anyway? mmm love the smell of new carpet! lol Enjoy cause after just one year it loses that smell, believe me I know!
Dont worry Ash will prob break up w/ BF for good by summers end! and then school starts and a whole array of new boys!!
Have a good and productive weekend Barb!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
Just think only 2 more days and it will have been well worth it. Josh really is a sweet and thoughtful guy to not only make sure he's there to help with the furniture but also to want to make dinner easier on you as well.
Ash is going to be just fine. I know you stress about her, but to be honest, I don't think that's ever going to change. We'll always find something to worry about when it comes to our kids!
I think you're right. Ashley is so on again off again with BF. I never really cared for him. Not like previous BF who still stays in touch. But I'm letting Ash work it out. I talked to her last night and she sounded fine - so that is what is most important.
The carpet is a light sand coloured berber with flecks of colour, a bit of blue. I wanted a hint of blue since I painted my bedroom that colour. We have 3 bedrooms - Ashley's is small, mine is medium and Brandon's is a good size. I took the medium one when we bought this cottage because it had the nicest closet and was closer to the bathroom than Brandon's. Ashley picked hers because it had a Snoopy waste basket. (OK, she was 8!) Brandon sure never complained about getting the largest one. I'm redecorating them to be a bit more generic. Hers was lacey and flowery, his was bears, deer and wolves. Who knows? Might not change them too much after all.
I'm managing in the total chaos. Found a spot on the table for my laptop since it is cool and cloudy, threatening rain again today.
Have a good one. And Karen - today REALLY is Friday. TGIF!
You are right about Ash - I will never stop stressing about her. I love her to bits and sometimes forget that she is a very capable almost 20 year old. I still think she is that little girl that I WANT her to be. I'm glad she is at least talking to me about things. I try NOT to tell her what to do. It is hard.
And, like you say - in 2 days this reno will be over. Well, the carpet anyway. They are not here yet. Of course I've been up for 3 hours waiting but they did call to say they were leaving shortly, just cutting the carpet. So it IS going to actually happen today. YIPPEE!
And Josh is a good guy. There are days when I question it. Silly me - I guess we all want total perfection. Least I do. LOL -never going to happen. Besides, I'm not perfect either. But he is a good, good man. Always polite, respectful, tries to be thoughtful, tries to remember to put the seat down (about 95% of the time which is AWESOME!). He really doesn't like moving furniture. But I know he will really help this w/e. And I will be GRATEFUL!!!
It is dark and gloomy but the rest of the w/e is looking not too bad, though cooler than normal. The whole summer has been less than normal but it's better than snow!
Hormones on top of the divorce stuff has given us a lot to handle I guess. They're beautiful girls, though, inside and out and they will remember how well we handled these crisis in the future. Ahhh... some day.
Ashley wanted a vegetable garden. But she can be lazy. Finally in a last ditch effort she planted tomatoes in my flower garden (although I had told her NOT to). And she never watered but the sprinkler did get it a bit. Yesterday she showed me a tiny tomato. It was the result of her effort - probably the only result. We both laughed. I told her that I was sure glad it was a tomato she was supposed to nurture and not a child. She commented "That is why teenagers should not get pregnant!". Had to agree with her on that one.
My parents NEVER commented that I was perfect. I was loved and respected. They let me know they felt I was successful. BUT... I was the instigator in the family. The aggressive one. (big surprise to you, right?) My Mom always said "with Barb around - there was never a dull moment). My Dad still just smiled when I groan about Ashley and says "guess you don't remember your own teen years so well". Hmmm... I was a "good girl". But I kept them on their toes.
Our girls will be fine. We just have to love them and continue to set limits. I just sent mine an email that she will HATE. I have come home twice now and she has not done the things she assured me would be done BEFORE I left. Like cleaning up the garage. She begged for a garage sale and promised there would be no evidence the next day. HA! No way to park cars in there. So - she can grumble but she has 10 days till I get back and I expect these jobs to be done. We'll see.
Well, today is turning out great. Yes, it is still dark and gloomy with intermittent rain but the carpet guys showed up! And they both have their teeth (long story). They are nice and appear to know what they are doing - a rarity in cottage country.
Then the phone rang. It was Brandon calling from work. He realized he had no w/e plans and wants to come up after work. YEAH! I have not spent any time with the kids at the cottage in 2 years! I keep asking myself why I maintain the "family cottage". This
Well, today is turning out great. Yes, it is still dark and gloomy with intermittent rain but the carpet guys showed up! And they both have their teeth (long story). They are nice and appear to know what they are doing - a rarity in cottage country.
Then the phone rang. It was Brandon calling from work. He realized he had no w/e plans and wants to come up after work. YEAH! I have not spent any time with the kids at the cottage in 2 years! I keep asking myself why I maintain the "family cottage". This just made my day. I told him the carpet was going in today and that I could use some help with moving some furniture back but that I guaranteed his bed would be back together before he arrived (actually he is getting MY bed). He asked if Josh was coming up and I wondered if that might deter him. Nope! He just knew he was in for good eating if Josh was here. I promised we'd do steak tommorrow. I am SO pleased he is coming.
Then the phone rang the second I hung up from Bran. It was Ashley. Still working out her R details but sounds in good spirits. Needed a bit of advice from her Mom! YEAH - I feel needed and loved today.
So, I'm trying to stay out of the way, help when I can, painting some baseboards so they're fresh when we put the room back together and make some food plans.
Sometimes it all comes together when we least expect it.
