[JMC]

I cannot believe the man I thought was the most honorable, kind, generous, caring, sweet, loving person I could ever meet is going to be my ex-husband. It's very surreal.

I know exactly what you mean. I learned this week that my divorce was final July 17th and yesterday signed and mailed my QDRO for 401-K distribution (marriage is the only contract I know of where the person who breaks the contract for unjust reasons can be paid by the other person in the contract).

Surreal describes it perfectly. This is a person who I kissed goodbye in the morning and then would communicate with 3-6x during the day via email/phone, and would return home to another kiss. Don't get me wrong, not every day was a bowl full of cherries, but, like most here, it was more good than bad and did not have to come to this - crazy MLC, and yes, very surreal.