I have been practicing: I feel ______ when you do ______. I need _________. And then stopping and giving him a chance to respond.
However, that doesn't get my questions answered for 'why' he feels as he does .. as he is not consistant with the above statement. So my 'why' questions usually have been a way to 'figure him out' so I knew what to do or not to do in the future to avoid setting off his temper
Fill in the blanks: I feel loved when you do ______________. I need ____________________. I feel ______________ when you get angry. I need ______________. I feel ______________ when you don't open up to me. I need _________.
I think that is a great communication tool. Tell him how you need to be loved, appreciated and cherished. If you notice most of us DAM are looking for things to do. Make your needs actions he wants to do. I would love for my W to tell me what she needs from me and how she would like it and then let me do it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
