I just got home from my date It was amazing! To say the least.
Sigh.
He came to my work as planned and I made him a drink (I work in a coffee shop) and he just hung out while I closed up shop for the day. Then we went to dinner and had a good time. A lot of eye contact and joking around.
Afterwards we went across the way to see what movies are playing (I was too hot to go to a park. It's super muggy here now) and there was a showing of the mummy (don't waste your money FYI) in like 20 minutes so we walked around the mall and just talked about nothing in particular. We got our tickets and went and found seats. I let him pick the seats and did not say a word about where he sat even though I wanted to because I despise sitting too close to the screen. I just went along with it and assumed that he had a good reason and it turned out to be fine so I'm glad I did not make a fuss. It's a small thing but at the same time big because it is something I would have mentioned in the past. Controlling!!!
Anyways the movie sucked but in a funny way. We kept looking at each other and smiling at the goofy parts. There was a LOT of physical affection during the movie. . .blushing. It was so nice though.
Afterwards we were talking and well, one thing led to another and we ended up ML. And it was amazing. It's funny how our sex life is better now than when we were living together. I wonder how common that is? I think it is because there is a lack of tension and stress between us these days. We just have fun with it.
Afterwards there was cuddling and a little relationship talk. Not too much and a lot was started by him. Through the night he made several "us", "we" and "our" comments. Still no talk of me being involved in his future (he is facing some career choices right now and there is always this house issue hanging over my head) but it's almost like I can feel that he is taking me and the way things are going into consideration. He did mention at least once that the reason we are doing so well is because we are not living together. He still is stuck in thinking that if we move back in together the arguments will start again. At the moment I see that as his only real objection to living together and working things out. But that is what the counseling is for so I am not going to worry about it right now.
In ways I am losing my patience. There were so many moments tonight where I wanted to say ILY (especially during sex) but I held back. I want it to come from him first. No pressure. It's hard not to say it though but I cannot deal with a setback right now. I'm too jazzed about my progress thus far.
Anyways it was getting late and he had a long drive home so we called it a night.
So now I need to get some sleep. I will talk to him tomorrow when he calls to let me know how a meeting at his work goes.
And ITH in response to your question we have been separated for around 2 months now I think. I don't remember the exact date. You could find it in my previous posts if you want but about 2 months. So there is a lot of hope for you. My husband and I did not really even speak for the first month and only saw each other once during that time. So you are still in this game. Don't give up!!! As always thanks for your post!
It was amazing! To say the least.