Just a lil reminder from your friend, Whatdidido.....DON'T YOU DARE CALL B or any other girl "friend" ....go to the bar, chat with your friend, sit next to some other guy hanging out, call some guy friends that might want to meet ya out there......orrrrr.....just stay home. There is nothing wrong with being alone sometimes. It is actually good to be by yourself once in a while. It makes you think about what makes you happy. I do understand that right now is very hard for you. I rented movies a ton, read good books, flipped through magazines, went shopping, to bookstores...LOVE bookstores.....Focus on YOU. Think, what would make ME happy right now and do it. Before I did that, I realized that I was always looking for other people to make me happy. Not good.
I think what you did with SS14 was good. He asked, you had to answer. He is old enough. He is learning about life and needed to figure all of that out in his head. You needed to be honest. That should NOT ruin chances with W. Don't think that.
Still want you to ask about retrouvaille. Needs to be soon. You are doing a good job not "being her friend" through this, but was hoping you would have asked about retro before doing it. Give her the info, talk to her....then, when/if she said no, you do what you are doing so well. Not "chatting like friends", not "helping her with her new apt. tasks", not "bailing her out of errands or everyday things", ....the time is now for her to see what her miserable life will be like without the wonderful husband she is letting go. Let her feeeel that she won't continue to have her cake and eat it to...she doesn't "get" to have you as her best friend and her OM as everything else. I feel like I rambled a bit...kinda late here....but hope it helped.....
