I think H realizes that although he does care about the OW he wants the life he has here more..But we both have a lot of changing to do..I realize that I did not do all I could do to save my marriage..this time I will give it my all..if then I sense that he is pulling away again I will know..I always know when he goes back to her..and if he does then we will be done.Nothing he can say will change that..But I truly hope she can and will just leave him alone..she keeps saying that she wants to move on and have both families heal yet she calls him and makes the first move, then because he's unhappy with me he gives in.I'm tired now but I don't feel so depressed anymore..I foolishly was looking for a quick fix..little did I realize this might take months and months, maybe years for us to fix..I hope we can do it and our family can get past the hurt..

Last edited by water2moon; 08/08/08 04:21 AM.

Me: 36 H: 34
2 D's: 10+13
Married: 13 yrs(Together 15)
Found out about A-Jan 08
Finally ended April 08..I hope??
Struggling to co-exist in peace