Here we go again...long need to vent

[water2moon]

Some of you may remember I had a terrible time with my DB'ng efforts..I was so hurt and angry that i took it out on H every day or nearly everyday.On April 25th the OW sent my children texts of their father naked. Luckily they never saw them. Police were called but I agreed not to press charges.He told me then that he would never want her again that he was disgusted. I believed him..until July when he started pulling away from me again and blamed me, then I only got worse and our fights became violent. I was the one who struck him a couple of times and he hurt me by either holding me down or grabbing me when i tried to leave. My arms and wrists were always bruised. So a few weeks ago I found out that the OW was having her sons 3rd birthday party about 25 mins away..the same day as H birthday, August 2nd..So I casually mention about 2 weeks before how the girls and I would like to take him to lunch..he makes an excuse and says he may have to work..I start to get suspicious but dont say a word..The night before his bday we get into a big fight and we continue fighting all night into the morning via phone and texting while he was working.

So on his birthday he tells me hes going to play golf..little did he know I had plans to show up at the OWs party with a friend..I left about 20 mins after him, my friend drove, I was too shaky..I told myself that if he was there I would file for a D the next day.So we drive by and there is his car..I couldn't breathe and just started shaking..she makes a uturn and proceeds to park a few cars behind his..then I see him walk out, get into the OW's car and he was moving it into the lot off of the street. He seemed so casual as if driving her car was a natural thing that he does all the time..So I wanted to be calm..but I just lose control..I ran out of the car and ran over to him, he looked up and saw me right as he was getting out of the car.I had a water bottle in my hand..I swear i dont even remember throwing it at him but I guess I did and I hit his lip and he got a bloody lip.So then he grabs me and starts moving me away and up the street away from the party place.The entire time I'm screaming, crying and trying to break free..He convinces me to get into my friends car in the backseat with him. The entire time he's telling me that he is still not "with" her and is no longer sleeping with her that they started talking to each other a few weeks prior and that theyre just friends..Of course I want to believe every word this man tells me but at this point I am so fed up..He threatens me and says If I dont leave and go home with him I will regret it..of course that infuriated me more and I told him that we were done I was getting a divorce.My friend asked him top get out of her car, he was rude and cocky and refused..he took my cell phone away because I told him I was going to call his whore..a few seconds later the police arrive..It was a female officer and he got mouthy with her..she todl him to back off or she would cuff him..I cant eblieve that this OW has made my H this type of person.We have now become violent and the police have been called twice..all over his Affair!! Well my fingers need a break..I will continue this shortly..