That sounds like a Carrie Bradshaw type of question.
Today anyway, I am thinking it wouldn't be such a good thing to go back on my beliefs and be his friend. He hasn't shown me that he knows how to be my friend with skank involved in his life. Check back tomorrow, I might have a different answer.
kat
Oh, yeah, Kat I'm just so like her you know!!! I think that sounds good Kat--same for me--I think you're right. I was thinking today we should act maybe more like G did last month, well we can't move with the kids, but just kind of trying to move on mentally? Maybe I will look into moving somewhere if H and his L force me to sell our house!!! Kat, I really don't think either of our H's deserve us in their lives with how they are acting!!! You are so right!!! Karen
Ya'll are just TRYING to get us talking again, aren't you?
Its more fun than drama!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I was just thinking. GBG moved out on Friday. D11 called me upset, so they spent the day with me on Saturday. They spent the night and spent the day with me on Sunday. I spent some time at the apartment on Sunday, helped GBG with some tools, spent some time together at the store, helped her take some things into the apartment.
Went to visit the girls for a couple hours after work on Monday. Went over on Tues for about 45 minutes. Picked them up on Wed to spend the night. Spent all day together today.
And this is supposed to be her week.
When I had them this past weekend, S14 DID stay with her. Next week, not much opportunity for her to see the girls. Them being at home. No reason to drive all the way here. I could hear her being a little lonely last night. Next week is S14's week to be with her again, but he plans on spending at least two days and nights here with us.
The up side of them all being here, she'll really feel not having the kids around.
The downside, time for her to possibly have OM over.
At the end of the day, I think I'M the one that comes out ahead.
This weekend, I have a client that is trying to open a bar downtown. Live original music place. Rock based. Told him I would try to make it Saturday. I was helping him get a liquor license. Said if he got the license by Saturday, drinks on the house for me.
I got stuff I can do, just no one to really do it with.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Just a lil reminder from your friend, Whatdidido.....DON'T YOU DARE CALL B or any other girl "friend" ....go to the bar, chat with your friend, sit next to some other guy hanging out, call some guy friends that might want to meet ya out there......orrrrr.....just stay home. There is nothing wrong with being alone sometimes. It is actually good to be by yourself once in a while. It makes you think about what makes you happy. I do understand that right now is very hard for you. I rented movies a ton, read good books, flipped through magazines, went shopping, to bookstores...LOVE bookstores.....Focus on YOU. Think, what would make ME happy right now and do it. Before I did that, I realized that I was always looking for other people to make me happy. Not good.
I think what you did with SS14 was good. He asked, you had to answer. He is old enough. He is learning about life and needed to figure all of that out in his head. You needed to be honest. That should NOT ruin chances with W. Don't think that.
Still want you to ask about retrouvaille. Needs to be soon. You are doing a good job not "being her friend" through this, but was hoping you would have asked about retro before doing it. Give her the info, talk to her....then, when/if she said no, you do what you are doing so well. Not "chatting like friends", not "helping her with her new apt. tasks", not "bailing her out of errands or everyday things", ....the time is now for her to see what her miserable life will be like without the wonderful husband she is letting go. Let her feeeel that she won't continue to have her cake and eat it to...she doesn't "get" to have you as her best friend and her OM as everything else. I feel like I rambled a bit...kinda late here....but hope it helped.....
Wdid, I consider you my guardian angel. Thanks for looking after me.
Hey, tal.
Being alone so far hasn't been too bad. So far, I've spent a lot of time with the kiddo's. Thank God.
I don't go do things by myself. Never have. Always been with the wife or as a group with wife. It will be a hard adjustment. I am SO tempted to make the calls that you spoke about.
Are you inside my head?
I have printed what seems to be a book off of the website for Retro. A copy for her and one for myself. Just waiting for the right opportunity. Have it in my car.
I did get a call today from my buddy from our original group that used to hang out together. Including GBG. I was best man at his wedding. GBG and his wife got into it one night and that was the end of that. Been about 3 or 4 years. I have seen them sporadically. Kept in touch with him. He wanted to get together last Friday, but I ended up not doing anything. Too upset. We are going out for a drink tonight.
I think tonight will be Margaritaville night.
Tomorrow night, there is a rock band playing in town. Seether. I want to go see them, too. Will see what I can do for that. I may have to go alone.
THAT would be a 180 big time.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
I could just picture it being typed out on the screen.
