I didn't know my post locked up - keeping busy, looking forward to Happyhour next Friday night, Going to pool this Sunday. Working around the house etc.
Hope everyone is doing OK, I have been reading your post but I haven't had much time to write.
I'm thinking of you all
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
W took kids to six-flags today, had 4 kids get in free passes, so she just had to pay for herself. Complained about how expensive it was, $15 to park $37 to get in to the park, $14 for soda, $5 for pretzel. She couldn't let kids passes expire worthless, just think how much money I saved. I posted this before, some people don't think about what they spend, they think about what they saved. (backwards)
I always wanted to buy something expensive and tell her wow I saved $500 on this, doesn't matter that I spent $1000 because I saved $500, I couldn't pass that up.
She complained about other drivers on the road when she was going to the park, and, several other things, she was in a good mood, she likes calling me and nagging or complaining about anything, I swear its going to be rough on her when I'm not there for her to talk to. She'll have to call OM and complain to him
Life will be wonderful
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Or maybe you could set up call forwarding for just her number. Everytime she calls you, have it go directly to OM. Don't know if that is even possible but what a hoot!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Or maybe you could set up call forwarding for just her number. Everytime she calls you, have it go directly to OM. Don't know if that is even possible but what a hoot!
kat
O Kat, baby, I like the way you think. I like the way you think!!
I was just thinking how I say I'll never forgive W for the A and reconcile with her.
Tonight when I was posting to Sara's I was talking about the kids and how they no longer see love between parents, how much it does to the kids, what kind of example we have shown them lately. Then I thought to myself, maybe I would be open to reconciliation for them. I do still love my W but she doesn't love me and I have no contol over her or her actions.
She is so far gone right now I know she will never even consider the thought. But someday I know she will come crashing down from her fantasy land. I'm in limbo still, between love and hate.
Do I wait, do I keep trying, should I say anything, or should I move on with my life. Her actions say goodbye, but my children say why daddy why, you just want to cry.
My plan was to move on with my life, but the kids keep pulling my mind back to what is right, what is best for them, can I try again.
See how confused I've been.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Jeff you will have to cross that bridge whenever you get there with her. The big issue is more than you still loving her, it is that you care about her. She is the mother of your children and when the day comes that everything comes crashing down, you will feel badly about it because you care for her. You will see when that day comes. I felt it for a bit when I thought my xH's world was crashing in on him.
I love going to 6 Flags. I hope your kids had fun. Did they get the free passes for reading at school? I give those to my students. The Boss is the best roller coaster EVER! But I dont' know what your W expected? Amsuement parks are EXPENSIVE! Everyone expects that. At least the kids got in for free. But the main idea was for them to have fun together, right?
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
W has been in a happy mood, calling me, etc. I can't stand it, but will put up with it until D in final
Yes Starshyne, kids did get free passes at school. They all had a fun time. I'm glad
Question for the ladies: Mortgage payment came to W address, they must have received a change of address notification from post office, so they changed the address on the bill. W told me she would bring it over to my house, I thought I would finally get her address. W pulled off address section and took it with her. Why dosn't she want me to know where she lives. I know she isn't afraid of me, I never laid a hand on her ever. I wouldn't do anything with the information, I'm not a stalker what does she think I would do with the information, sit outside her appartment when she has the kids, I have more important things to do with my time. Hire a Private Investigator, for what reason, I'm getting everything I want in the D.
Very strange
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
W told me she would bring it over to my house, I thought I would finally get her address. W pulled off address section and took it with her. Why dosn't she want me to know where she lives. I know she isn't afraid of me, I never laid a hand on her ever. I wouldn't do anything with the information, I'm not a stalker what does she think I would do with the information, sit outside her appartment when she has the kids, I have more important things to do with my time. Hire a Private Investigator, for what reason, I'm getting everything I want in the D.
Very strange
My H was the same; wouldn't/didn't tell me his address actually ever, but they put it on the divorce paperwork so you should find out then. I think maybe another thing a lot of our WAS have in common is being secretive. I plan in my next R to find someone that's not secretive and fairly transparent. I mean I'm transparent b/c I have nothing to hide, and I think many of our WAS do have stuff they are hiding/don't want us to know so they are secretive. My H was always a bit secretive through the entire marriage. When you read about those people with the 2nd family or the spy job or something, I always thought that my H could have a secret job or family with as secretive as he always was and I wouldn't be surprised--so probably shouldn't have been too surprised he had an affair either. Karen
New twist in my saga, W wrote my mom a letter told her we have great kids and they have 2 parents that love them, explained that she wasn't happy and its been going on for 13 years, wow, since I first met W, told my mom that there was no other person she was involved with wow
My mom knew from day one when the moving van was at my house and I had the kids over at her house, she asked me straight out is she seeing someone, I told the truth yes.
Found out W told D9 to lie to her mom about W smoking, found out that W never graduated from highschool, found out that W got a GED, found out W had opportunity to go to college and her parent were willing to help her out, W told me her parents were disappointed in her and would not help out with college.
Finding out W was lying to me from day one, wow
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
