Yeah. I tried so hard to not fall for some teen idol but Mr Cassiday was just a little too hard to resist. Parker Stevenson(did I spell that right) he was pretty easy on the eyes too!
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hey guys, thanks so much for the support. I just knew afterwards that I had closed the book on any chances I MIGHT have had left with the wifer. But it was a good talk.
I SWEAR I hate the term, "....just a friend."
Had a great day with all my kiddo's. Got up early and cooked up breakfast. Up and going to eye doc. Took S14 to his dads place to wait for the girls and I to finish. He would have been bored. I took his place at the eye doc. D6 is 20/20 like her brother. D11 is 20/30, about the same as last year. She wanted new glasses, so since its covered, sure, pick some out. Same with me. I lost mine over a year ago. Haven't been to the doc since '03. Not much change. Just need for driving, but not required. Got some very updated ones.
Rico suave!
Run to Dollar store for some $3 sunglasses for the girls. Dilated eyes. Pick S14. Rush to Six Flags. CROWDED. At parking station, sign was up. SOLD OUT. It was about 12:45. They were out by 11:00. Off to eat lunch then hit the movies. "Get Smart". I think I fell asleep for about 30 minutes of it. Missed the whole dance scene. The rest was ok. Afterwards, trying to fill in time till GBG got off work. Hit Target. Window shopping. I did ride a bike around the store and embarrassed the hell out the kids. Got S14 a backpack. I had D11 call her grandmother to see how she is. She invited us over for dinner.
I'll take free dinner any day.
Home cooked chicken fajitas. Refried beans, fideo(like spanish rice, but with vermicelli pasta), homemade tortillas, and iced tea. A Texican feast. GBG calls. Tells me she is trying to get off early. She'll call me when she is headed home.
I had to call her to have her leave our Six Flags drink containers on her patio for me to pick up later. She tried to engage me in convo after I asked. "Okay, I'll put them out there. Wow, I overslept." I didn't say anything. I just thanks and talk to her later. Bye.
Ends up that she was supposed to go in late anyway, so getting off late. I tell her the kids and I were invited to eat at mom's. "Oh. Okay. Then, I'll just see you at the apartment. I have to go because they are puting in the cable and the phone." "This late?" "They said between 4 and 8." "Okay. I'll call you later."
Take all the kids home. I ask s14 if he wants me to take him to his mothers place. "No, just take me to my dads. I'll be with her on Sunday."
I thought he might want to see her a little, but I didn't say anything.
At apartment, SIL is there again. I see a box for a vaccum cleaner in the living room. I have no idea where she is getting the money for all the crap she is buying. Well, I guess I do, but hate to think about it. I did not go in. She asks if I want to take the puppy or leave it. She is smiling at me. I told her its up to her. D6 says she wants it to stay. GBG says it will keep them busy tomorrow. She starts to talk a little. "The dog started to chew at the door here. Look." I look at it and I just say, "Uh oh. Okay girls, hug and kisses! Gotta go!"
Hugs and kisses. Big ones as always. I remind D11 to call me tonight. I can see GBG just looking at us. Again that face. Its hard to explain. Like disappointed or something. I start to walk away.
She says, "Bye. Thanks." Quick glance back, "Bye." Not sure what the thanks was for, but I let it go. Is she thinking I did her a favor?
D11 yells something. I yell back, "What!?" GBG yells back, "She said she'll talk to you tomorrow." "Okay!"
Last night, we were trying to figure out the visiting schedule in S14's room. HIS schedule between GBG, his dad and me. I kept telling the kids how much I hated this too, but we have to be strong and do the best with what we are given. And that we have to just accept certain things.
Now, I don't think that I'll see them until Sunday. GBG mentioned the other day about maybe going back to Laredo. Her dad invited her. He wants to buy the kids some school clothes.
I'll have all weekend to myself. Have no idea what I'll do.
Yet.
Last edited by hopeful4her; 08/08/0802:49 AM.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Hey guys, thanks so much for the support. I just knew afterwards that I had closed the book on any chances I MIGHT have had left with the wifer. But it was a good talk.
I SWEAR I hate the term, "....just a friend."
Well, if you did the right thing, which I think you did (and I think everyone else does too) then if that closes the door on your chances with W then so be it. That's her bad choice!
I hate that term too! And the friend zone and all those kind of things. Kat's been discussing that too, and I've been thinking about that too lately. I mean I think I have to be friendly with my H when he's ex-H b/c that's just my nature, but I don't really want to be friends either with all the unfriendly stuff he's done in the past year. Can you be friendly with someone and not be friends though? Karen
That sounds like a Carrie Bradshaw type of question.
Today anyway, I am thinking it wouldn't be such a good thing to go back on my beliefs and be his friend. He hasn't shown me that he knows how to be my friend with skank involved in his life. Check back tomorrow, I might have a different answer.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
On the one hand, I want to be friends with GBG. At least friendly. We need to because of the kids, I think. Plus, who knows what remaining friends can do for later.
On the other hand, knowing what she has done/doing just absolutely sucks a$$.
And thats with her and I. While things were violatile for a while just before she moved out, things stayed pretty cordial for the most part. We had a few heated moments.
Your and kats H's are just jacka$$es. I mean really.
Isn't if funny how we all want to go and kick the crap out of each others spouses.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
