T I also would not send the letter Im not sure about S letter My D13 verbalized some of her pain directly to H many months ago That did go well coming directly from her I encouraged it she was comforted by him saying I still love you its not your fault and H did say that I took her to therapist maybe 3-4 times so she could talk more that helped I think she is hurt in some ways , but I have made it very easy for H to keep R with kids by allowing him to visit here anytime I have been mostly friendly and cooperative I dont badger him or express my pain to him that has helped im sure for him to transition out of here and still maintain R with kids I am getting to the point now, i want to let go and im closer
hang in peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow