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I also would not send the letter
Im not sure about S letter
My D13 verbalized some of her pain directly to H many months ago
That did go well coming directly from her
I encouraged it
she was comforted by him saying I still love you
its not your fault and H did say that
I took her to therapist maybe 3-4 times so she could talk more
that helped
I think she is hurt in some ways , but I have made it very easy for H to keep R with kids by allowing him to visit here anytime
I have been mostly friendly and cooperative
I dont badger him or express my pain to him
that has helped im sure for him to transition out of here and still maintain R with kids
I am getting to the point now, i want to let go and im closer

hang in
peace


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow