Some of it was XOM slowly showing his true colors, and W realizing that she didn't have to deal with any of those negative traits with me. She also saw the positive changes I was making in myself, and remembered the things we used to share and the things she missed about me. Me not initiating a lot of contact those last few weeks helped with the missing part.
Not sure if I am answering your question well, but we are working through a lot of this still.
Yes, you really did! Thanks so much!!! I find the WAS pov so interesting, b/c it's so different I guess. So it sounds like she started facing reality a bit, and when she did she saw your positive changes and was impressed (of course!) and your LRT at the end maybe helped?
I mean you were so deep into LRTing you were moving and getting a new job--extreme LRT. So basically those are kind of classic DB stuff you were doing. I will try to work harder on LRT also--that's a hard one for me, you really had let go or were willing to let go at one point weren't you and maybe she knew that it was her last chance? I think I'm close to that point too-just get divorced or whatever--tired of the rollercoaster. Thanks again, G! Karen
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