my h was a spender before and now oh my oh my -- he is really broke!! REALLY! AND of course the first email he sent after getting fired was to me to tell me that he would not be paying his childsupport/alimony this month. (funny he doesn't know what the courts can do....) mine NEVER allows ANYONE to hold him accountable. NEVER - ahhhhhhhh
anyway--- i too snoop still and my h is still spending. but the wierd thing? not on big stuff..stupid spendign..jsut plain stupid!! and when/if i have to take him to court to get what he owes me (he was suppose to be paying me back for some other stuff) i wonder wht the judge will say if heh gets a look at his checking account.
what i can't figure out is just the continual stupidity. BUT mroe than that the fact that i still like the guy!!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Well, I don't like this guy, but I love him. The real him, or the old him, or whatever you want to call it. I guess I can't accept that the man we all knew for so long can be completely gone. But right now I don't like him one bit.
My H had the nerve to tell me that he couldn't take the kids for his scheduled July visitation because he didn't have enough money for groceries to feed them. But then he magically had enough money to take them on a five day trip to Florida!! The truth was that he didn't want to have to inconvenience himself by taking care of the kids at his apt. for that long, or inconvenience the parasitic whore by making her move out for a week or two.
How is it that they can pay for stupid stuff or take expensive vacations, then whine that they don't have the money to buy groceries?
Sorry to hear that your H is being so irresponsible with money. Sorry also to read that you've been struggling with depression. Me, too. Ugh.
Trusting---sorry for the thread hijack. I can't remember your exact timeline---how old were your kids when your H left? And it looked like your H was peeking out of the tunnel for just a bit. Has that stopped for now? Was this the first time?
TPaschal
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
My sister in law the counselor and attorney who resides on the east coast told me that when they review the financials, it is the judge who can order him that to get a second job to pay for what the courts have ordered him to pay.
I am just going by what she said as I have never been thru a divorce and I hope to God I never have to.
I feel for all of you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I got divorced last December. I have three kids, 17, 14, and 3. Your H sounds like my ex with his spending. Mine buys $300.00 cigars, can you imagine!!!! He smokes 3 a month.
I could not agree more regarding their stupidity. As much as I hated to get divorced, if I would not of, I would be sleeping on a park bench somewhere. He was spending at a rate of 50,000 -70,000 per month. I had no choice. He was 3 days away from taking out the equity in our home.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex has stopped peaking out of the tunnel but he is asking the kids alot of questions regarding me.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Wow Trusting that is a lot of money. What was he buying? Keep doing what you are doing. Your h seems to be interested, dipping his toes in the water, but not wanting to take the plunge.
This will be a slow journey.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
It is very hard to do. Very. Leaving them alone I am learning is suppose to be good for us. Still trying to find the strength in that.
Trusting - these post really help me stay in focus. Yes it is a sickness..and more importantly only they can choose to get better and i can't do anything about it.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
He was buying cars, watches, expensive office equiptment, boats, golfing stuff, cigars,
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
The most my H ever spent on ow was two nights at a nice hotel!!
About a month ago he and I were talking about things he and I could do together and I said he can take me to a nice hotel for weekend but not that one. He started laughing and so did I.
Maybe it is a blessing we don't have money. I cannot imagine having to pay all of that debt!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
