Anyone here with a WAS and no children?

[runningoutoftime]

I think without kids the trick is to find a common ground where you might begin to create a "nonpursuing friendship."

For example, if your WAS is past the "anger phase" and you can handle contact without "reattaching".... and..... happen to have something in common like... let's say hiking... you very casully mention you are going to ______ and they are welcome to come along. No strings, no relationship, you just happen to be going to ____ and it would be nice to have company since your other buddies are busy. If the WAS let them know it's no big deal.

However, the rules..... NO relationship or divorce talk. This has to be like a walk with any other stranger or acquaintance. Just easy impersonal conversation. Nothing negative.... try to create a "positive" memory.

Then, let time pass.... and the next time they contact you about something mention... "Hey, I happen to be going to __________ you are welcome to come a long...." eventually... possibly.... they might invite you if you stay super non-pursuing and make it an easy, friendship-like situation they feel comfortable with. Be a great listener, be interested in them....

Never have expectations.