So I married a sex addict...

[happycamper]

I think my problem is I am happy to be his friend, more than that, I want to be his friend. I want to be the one he confides in, the only one who knows all his stuff (true for the moment), the only one he feels comfortable with... basically what I want if I'm very honest is an EA with my H. That doesn't help me to detach in the slightest.

As a christian, I feel that our M based on promises made before God is over (although it may not be over legally). That's why I call her the gf, not the ow. I don't want to have an EA with someone else's boyfriend!!!