Don't have much good advice for you, but I just wanted to empathise with your situation about living together. My H is still here most of the time, and he has a gf now. He texts her all the time, and calls her (but he goes outside to do that). I'm finding that you have to deal with the pain of the gf/ow on top of the pain of the separation. And on top of that you have to content with pregnancy hormones too.
Just wanted to say it's horrible living with your separated H, it makes life so much harder. My heart goes out to you. Thankfully there are some really wise people here that can point you in the right direction DBwise.
(((Niki)))
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08