Hi Niki: I was just reading your thread. Honey, you need a HUGE Hug (((((((((((((((((((Niki)))))))))))))))))))))))
It is not your responsiblity to pay for his trip. If he doesn't have the money, too bad. Do not enable or help him to see OW. You don't have to be mean about it, just say you had some other expenses or something to that effect.
I know that you are so close to the sitch right now, you can't see the forest through the trees. He is trying to figure out what he wants. If you play your cards right, and really want to save the marriage, then it depends on how you handle things.
Don't flip out. I know this is easier said than done. But when you feel like exploding, explode here. Let it happen here. Because we all know where you are and what you are going through, and we can talk you down (especially Jeff, isn't he great??? He has picked me off the floor so many times I can't count).
Find something, anything to take your mind off this. I have a great book, if you want, but it is a faith-based book. What I can tell you is that he has helped me so much I cannot even begin to explain.
Don't sit at home. Meet with friends, people who can comfort. Go out, get a massage, be good to you, especially now. This is coming as a double blow to you, and you truly need to make sure you stay healthy for not only you, but the baby as well.
We are all here for you, Niki. Just breath...we will help you get through this.
Lola
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
