Thanks so much for your post. I have to confess that I feel a bit of a fraud here really. I started off in this community as a DBer, but after having heard the truth from H I just can't see a way forward for us. If I start thinking along the lines of DBing, or even 'waiting' for my H to get himself sorted, I get very confused. At the moment GAL is all about getting over my R, not about getting him back. In fact there is only one thing I fear more than him leaving, and that is him staying.
The only way I could come to terms with 'God's perfect will' in all of this was to say that our present R was utterly dead and toxic. It may be that some day I we might start a new R, but it wouldn't be the old one. I don't really think he is ever going to come back to me, it's just too painful to 'wait' for him.
I think you act very well with your W, you're clearly putting in alot of effort. Sorry to read about your situation.
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08
