Escaping the Backstreets on the Lake Erie Shore

[Neilh23]

ok, but here's the thing...

my W stated at the begining of our sitch that i was controlling. It's taken me quite awhile to figure this out because it wasn't the overt "No you are not going to do that" type of control. It was an emotional control...almost like i wouldn't allow her to have certain emotions, because in Neil's world, nothing was wrong...we had a great marriage, etc etc etc....

isn't this the same type of thing? Or am i missing the point? I'm just throwing it out there for discussion. I do like the idea, but i don't want to "control" things....influence, of course...:-)...not control.

If anyone explain the difference......