Nit, I know you are hurting so bad and still not fully understanding, be kind to yourself this is sooooooooo new to you. It is understandable to think up reasons to excuse your x over what he has done and find reasons to blame the new wife(OW).
" wonder if that woman rushed him & is doing this b/c she knows he still has feelings for me. You can't just turn the love off that we had for each other, I don't think anyway."
Nit he is 48yrs old,he more than likely does still have feelings for you but please don't think that stuff about always hurting the one you love. It will not help. His actions not some trite words are what you need to look at. I am sorry if this is harsh and I would not add more pain to your broken heart but I worry about you.
Grieve what was, mourn the loss come to terms with the past.Be kind to yourself,get plenty of rest. Look after your daily needs,eating sleeping and some time outdoors. Love your dog and try to find away to heal-slowly. Don't weave fantasies in your head. You will get through this. You will feel the sun again and smile and laugh. Look after you and your dog that is enough for now.
Have you seen a Dr, maybe some AD's can help I am not an advocate of these but this is an exceptional time. Hugs (((()))))
