I apologize if I sound terse with you but I feel as if you are spinning and you have to catch your breath.
Unfortunately none of the things your Husband does are within your control and for now you have to let him go, completely and give him to God.
You have been advised to protect yourself financially but you are afraid to do this because you think it will just make him angry and push him to file for a Divorce.
Unfortunately I think that anything you do will make him angry, especially if this is MLC. It's kinda like you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
As for your Daughter, she can ask your Husband her own questions and they will need to hash things out between them. Let her hear things herself from her Father, rather then you being the bad guy.
Kids are not stupid. They watch our every move and listen to everything we say. She will come to her own conclusions. But do not fill her head with anything negative about her Dad, she doesn't need additional burdens in her life.
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it did not work out the first time they had an affair 12 yrs ago what makes him think it will this time.she's been married 2 other times has grown children maybe a 15 yr old still home...
This confuses me a little. Your Husband had an affair with this same Woman 12 years ago? What was going on at that time?
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
