Holly, When you meet w/your attorney, lay it all out for him. Show him exactly what you've done, your h has done and what needs to be done in order to settle up the expenses, etc. I wouldn't settle for the low end of spousal support. If you attorney feels you are entitled to a higher amount, then go w/it. This doesn't mean you are taking him to cleaners. You are only asking for what is "fair market" value of your time, love and support that you've provided in the marriage.
Take the time at the beach to relax and just enjoy. Life's far too short to allow TJ's behavior to bring you down. BTW, yes, he's a lost soul, but there's nothing you can do about it except pray. You are in control of your life and your destiny awaits you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
