I think "well" is ok----there was no anger, no denial.........If he can see how strong I am and where I'm at with all of this, understand the depth of my love for him(well I don't know if he can understand that) and still reject me, there is something better for me out there...........and I know that.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
This Hi Wow you have alot of courage being there while he read Now everything is out so much healthier than all the secrets Hopefully H will respond with a positive either way, you sound strong I hope you have a good weekend peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
So, one week post letter. Not one word was said that night. Not one word said since. H has told me a couple times he would call and discuss the kid schedule, but has not. I've been on no-contact unless needed for questions about the house or kids. I don't know if I can take it. I just keep thinking I need to know what he is thinking............is he thinking he may be able to come back to me, or is he wondering how he can divorce me and go to the OW without the kids and the whole world knowing what he's done???? He seems even more uncomfortable around me. I continue to let him come when he wants to see the kids. This weekend is supposed to be his. I don't know if I can handle it. I still don't know why I have to be alone!
I keep thinking about something the MC said last week..........well not that she said something, but when I told her that I discovered that the OW I suspected 2 years ago was in fact a reality, she said something like "2 years.........that's a long time.........." Now, I'm pretty sure it didn't get physical until maybe Nov. or Dec. of last year, but still............does that mean this is something that is going to last????????????
I really am trying, and failing, to concentrate on me. The question I keep coming back to is what is this doing to me, hoping and praying that my cheating H will come back to me?? What does that say about the kind of person I am........desperate?? I consider myself committed and want to save my family, but what kind of example am I setting?? Am I saying that what H has done/is doing is OK???????????
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
This I dont think you mean what your H is doing is ok and you are not desperate Just like the rest of us woman and men who want to save their M and Family I see it as an act of courage and faith not failure Your H is confused and he like mine wants to avoid any confrontations or any reality checks they are running..they think from us and maybe my M was not all great..we had problems I wasnt happy either but i still believe they run from themselves and their own demons of the past maybe the recovery for us comes as we allow and process our grief(maybe with help of a T) as you have then remake our lives as best we can as single moms caring for our kids creating a new social life working making friends get a new hobby helping others God pma
with my H i tried everything we were friends I was very available I listened validated,, thanked him cooked, kept house clean ect then I went dim for a while little talk kind of mysterious went out alot he knew I was dancing with men/didnt care it didnt matter cause nothing changed he is gone deep in his own whatever maybe MLC maybe not i dont know I realize my chances are slim at this point but one never knows so I have chosen to move forward whatever that means I think it feels right to let H go If he wants to reconcile, we can talk if not, I am already planning on a new life without Him I hope for you the best peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
