I can't remember for sure---how long has your H been gone? 5 years or so? And how long has the D been final? Was there an OW in your sitch, and if so, is she still around?
It will be 3 years this fall. D was final late Feb. OW? Ah...that is a complicated matter! I don't think I have shared any of this at all. But, I will, as I know it helps me to fully understand another sitch as I watch it evolve (i.e. the text messages lately).
A few days before the D my H came here to talk. He wanted to postpone the D and try to start fresh by dating. He said he had some things to tell me though- we had to start with a clean slate and no secrets.
He said that he was seeing someone for some of that time, but it ended 6-7 months before. I was shocked, T! I mean, he was usually here. I would have never guessed he was capable of hiding such a secret. I asked who broke it off and he said that he did. He said that he knew in his heart that he loved me and that she just couldn't compare.
Anyway, that was a lot to absorb, but I asked the questions I needed to and then said that I wanted to put it behind me. I could have prolonged it but I chose not to...I just didn't care to.
He did postpone but then decided that he needed to start fresh with me and the D was necessary to do so.
It's been up and down since then. Too much to type here. He is on an upswing lately--- calling me by a nickname, texting, calling, etc. He keeps saying things like "I will always love you no matter what happens." Not sure what the "no matter what" means.... Again, I am weary of thinking and worrying about it.
Shoot, my sister is on the phone, so I will have to finish this up later.
