I felt so good starting that thread, full of energy and hutzpah. Then she-bang, all sorts of shitake hit the fan with me, with him. Sometimes I'd see this title and just groan, waiting for it to be done. For most of this past thread I did feel like a victim, which was quite annoying.
This marriage is done, has been done since before he left. I've been lucky to have time... time to continue recovering from the head injury, time to find the wonderful support and friendships on this site, time to connect with a great therapist, time to turn and listen to friends and family.
I've had time to start to grow up. My fairy tale ending has been lost in a bog. I'm sloshing out of where I was once stuck. Why people veer, get lost and give up, or become broken who knows. It must be the only way out when you're overwhelmed but want to honor a commitment but can't, won't, don't know how to effectively communicate.
