I really think you are on the right path. Do for you and forget about anything to do with your h right now. Don't respond to anything he emails you. Let him call you and quit taking the easy way out. He knows what he did is wrong that is why he doesn't call you. He is ashamed and guilty.
Thank you so much!! This is the hardest!!! I just can't believe he would marry someone like her. I used to work with a girl similar to her, except she had never been married but would have A's with MM. My H hated her! Called her a slut & everything else. Well, what is this woman???
I'm taking my dog back to the vet today, time for an appointment she seems to be doing pretty good except she had a seizure last night & that concerns me. Of all nights for that to happen!!!
nlt, Your dog seizure might be related to the distress you're going through. Dogs (and animals) are very susceptible to taking in vibes/energy from their surroundings, be it negative or positive energy. So your sadness could have something to do with her feeling unwell. SO try to take care of yourself too.
Thank you so much! I did wonder if me being so upset yesterday was her problem. The vet thinks she has low thyroid, he is sending off some blood test & we'll know more next week but he thinks that is why she had the seizure. She acts like she feels fine.
I'm still in disbelief about all of this! Right now I'm not sure he sent the email, she may have done it. It was a cruel way of letting me know. He has treated me so bad! That is hard to believe too b/c he loved me so much, how can you treat someone like he has me, especially how he used to feel about me. I still think some of it is the OW. She may be thinking up mean things to do to me & he is going along with it, I just don't know. I know some people say that they hurt the ones they love the most, well if that is the case he loves me a lot!
I wonder if that woman rushed him & is doing this b/c she knows he still has feelings for me. You can't just turn the love off that we had for each other, I don't think anyway.
nlt, I know you are analyzing this as part of your grieving process. Also, do please try to take care of yourself and pamper yourself now. I truly think he will regret sooner or later.
nlt, I know you are analyzing this as part of your grieving process. Also, do please try to take care of yourself and pamper yourself now. I truly think he will regret sooner or later.
Nit, I know you are hurting so bad and still not fully understanding, be kind to yourself this is sooooooooo new to you. It is understandable to think up reasons to excuse your x over what he has done and find reasons to blame the new wife(OW).
" wonder if that woman rushed him & is doing this b/c she knows he still has feelings for me. You can't just turn the love off that we had for each other, I don't think anyway."
Nit he is 48yrs old,he more than likely does still have feelings for you but please don't think that stuff about always hurting the one you love. It will not help. His actions not some trite words are what you need to look at. I am sorry if this is harsh and I would not add more pain to your broken heart but I worry about you.
Grieve what was, mourn the loss come to terms with the past.Be kind to yourself,get plenty of rest. Look after your daily needs,eating sleeping and some time outdoors. Love your dog and try to find away to heal-slowly. Don't weave fantasies in your head. You will get through this. You will feel the sun again and smile and laugh. Look after you and your dog that is enough for now.
Have you seen a Dr, maybe some AD's can help I am not an advocate of these but this is an exceptional time. Hugs (((()))))
I truely think one day he will regret it also. Maybe sooner than we think.
I'm just so depressed right now. This has really taken it's toll on me this time. It did before when he told me he wanted a D & when I found out about OW but this I think has been worse.
