Where.......are you? Wandering the boards but not posting here? Hope you're having a good day today. I like the idea of you getting a coaching session once the flat's sorted out and things are a bit more settled.
Did you get the job? Let us know what's happening.
(((((((HUGS)))))))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
I wouldn't say everything is "happy" in my neck of the woods.. but we're muddling through. I have no idea if H and I will be together at the end of all this or not... I find I am very untrusting with him... I don't know how to change that. Maybe with time? Also, he's not sure he can do the commitment thing? He loves us and will always be here for us but isn't sure that he's capable of having a good marriage.
So of course this is disappointing but not surprising. I'm not giving up any hope because I realize I have a lot to be hopeful for.. but I do wonder what the future holds for me.. and for my daughter. Say this doesn't work out the way I hope it to.. Will I ever trust my judgement in men? Do I know a quality individual when I meet them? I used to think so but now I'm not so sure...
Anyway, these are where my thoughts are at these days..
Other than that, I had a nice lunch with a really great lady today. I had the opportunity to meet "Addie" today and it was wonderful. It's nice to talk face to face with someone that's been there.. or is there.. in the trenches with you, you know? I know I have all of you wonderful people on here and I am ever so grateful to have met you.. but face to face and giving a hug to a fellow DBer felt really good.
The house also went up for sale this week. As I mentioned we are doing it privately... and so far we've had 2 people contact us asking what we're asking and what the sq footage is.. and 5 realtors asking us to call them back or offering to help us to sell our home (which we are not interested in)... We've only had the sign out on the lawn since Tuesday evening.. so we'll see what happens over the next little bit. Hopefully sooner than later but I'm not in a huge hurry since the condo won't be ready until late 09 or early 10!
Since H is here.. although putting D2 (nearly D3) to bed I should run.. but I might login later to check on all of you.
Will I ever trust my judgement in men? Do I know a quality individual when I meet them? I used to think so but now I'm not so sure...
I have these exact same thoughts, sweetie. We thought the men we chose to marry were "superior" (for lack of a better word) human beings... and now look where we are: a divorce busting website.
I'm glad you had lunch with Addie and I'm glad things are progressing with the house/sort of interview, etc.
Don't forget how amazing you are!
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Hi W2G, It was wonderful to actually meet you yesterday. It's so nice to be able to talk about this face to face with someone who is actually in a similar sitch. I know there aren't many people I can talk to personally that understand why I would want to stand for my M. Hang in there! You are a wonderful person. Your H already realizes that but obviously needs time to get through his crisis.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
you have met with Addie! I envy you now (both of you) :). Any chance for me to have a lunch with you guys while in BC? I'm going there soon for a week or so.
I hope your house will sell for "as much as the market will bear" :). (((((HUGS))))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
