I too want to warn you about talking to too many people. I only speak from experience...it is easy to bash the WAS because we would not be in this predicament if it were not for them. But, you also need to remember it takes two to make or break a marriage.
I have a few friends, and one D21, who have been less than supportive of my M. They do not hesitate to tell me what I should do. The thing is, they are not me. It may be comforting to hear that they believe your W's actions are not normal. But remember, you really don't know what she is thinking right now. It is easier said than done, I know. But I am finding that just because we think we know what is going on does not make it so.
I have one friend that referred to my H as Public Enemy Number 1. It really ticked me off. I sent her a long email, and told her that it was upsetting to me, and that she did not understand what I was doing or why, and that I was not sure I could explain it to her, but that from now on we should not talk about my H.
She apologized to me about a week later, saying that it is hard for her to see me hurting, and wants it to stop. She did not mean anything by it, but is angry at H right now, for hurting me. I can understand, but in the long run, it does make it harder to view things from your own mind, when your thoughs are mixed with someone elses.
Also, keep in mind that none of us are perfect parents, and you seem to be doing a great job. I think you should be very proud of that. We all make mistakes with our kids, but as long as we learn from them, its all good
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
