I wondered when my thread was going to lock. Is that a record - 18 pages?
Yesterday was a very good day for me. It was my b'day and I had a lovely day (off site meeting) with my co-workers. They even got me a cake!
My H had called me in the morning to confirm that he wanted to take me out for dinner. He called me honey and I even got an ILY! Probably 2 of the best b'day gifts I have ever received.
We went to dinner, and it meant a lot to me because he came home very dirty, hot and tired. He is also covered in poison ivy and I knew that he was miserable.
What could have easily turned into a terrible night was actually very enjoyable because he made such an effort.
We talked quite a bit about our upcoming couples weekend next weekend, and discussed that he might go fishing (with the buddy that I like him to be with) this weekend.
More cautious optimism. I continue to listen and watch. It means everything that he is trying.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Well Happy Belated Birthday as well!!!! Keeping secrets from us......did you update your profile?
No, not yet. Instead of 52 I think I am going to become 25.
I haven't said that I've noticed that he is trying, because I didn't want to call his attention to the fact that he is "trying." But I did tell him that I really appreciated and enjoyed last evening, and that it meant so much to me because I knew that he was miserable and suffering from the p ivy.
He seemed to appreciate that.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Oh, I just re-read your post and saw that you gave that advice by saying actions and occasional comments. duh! That's the chemo brain and the blonde in me. Sorry TD.
That is exactly what I am trying to do. Give him positive validation without calling attention to the fact that it's a problem and he has to "try".
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Yup. Went and picked it up yesterday morning. I wanted to get it on my birthday, to make it a true birthday gift to myself.
I even had $2 left from the "old gold" money.
It's a pretty watch. Pearl face w/diamonds. I will have it forever.
Funny thing that my work mate noticed...it resembles (kind of, sort of )the watch that I bought and had engraved as a gift to my H. on the 1 yr anniversary of my cancer diagnosis. (my 1 yr. survivor date)
When she said that looks like the watch you bought for H, I decided to get it.
I wore it last night, and he didn't even notice. He probably never will, because it is similar to his, but enough different that it won't catch his attention.
But I'll always know and will remember how I am "surviving" this rough time.
Thanks for the compliment, and for remembering the gift.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Sounds like a very nice watch. My W gave me a nice Movado for our 10th Anniversary and had it engraved. In about a years time I have had to bring it back 4 times to get the band fixed....and I am not rough on things. We are both frustrated by that....but to me it is the thought that counts
It was very thoughtful of you to give that gift to your H on your 1 yr survival date....recognizing what he had to go through in that as well
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
That's too bad about your watch...I guess anything worth having can be frustrating, AND require repeated maintenance
I have a question for you.... As you could probably predict, after such a good day on Wednesday, I saw a bit of the Alien last night. Nothing terrible, or serious, but some bad humor and rude behavior.
Did you ever feel that the existance of you sitch gave your W an excuse for bad behavior?
I don't want to become a doormat, but I don't know how to stand up for myself just now, without causing a fight or giving him an excuse for more D ranting...?
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
No, not yet. Instead of 52 I think I am going to become 25.