Bridge, Let me take a stab at this. Use your teaching skills here as well - he's not "getting" it so ask/teach another way.
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That frustrates me a lot and I'm pondering why it is making me so anxious (to the point of tears & upset tummy) to not be able to (or shouldn't be) asking my "why" questions of H??
He sees you frustrated, he's let you down already. You ask "why" ? That's now threatening to him. He probaly did what he did to please you - now you are frustrated and upset and want to know why. He sees himself as failing you as a husband. The "why" is now viewed as an attack - men get attacked we defend, and we use the coping mechanisms we have and most likely ineffective. Instead of asking, Why did you do ________? Try - When you do _______ it makes me feel _________. Does that make sense?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
