In reading your last post, this sounded so much like my h when all this first started happening. You are controlling, I was miserable in the m and most recently my h said you don't care about me. It's amazing what they say.
What they say and how they are really feeling are 2 different things. I think my h is making progress, but Peace this does take time and lots of it.
Upside and I both know how patient one must be and the baby steps are far and few between.
Hang in there, you sound like you are doing good.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"