Don't worry--I didn't think you were calling me a control freak! I'm just starting to think that I am one :), at least in some situations. What you are saying about yourself sounds SO similar to me. I always need to know about events in the future, always needed to know about H's plans, and hated it when he'd have a spontaneous night out. I needed to arrange the whole weekend too.
My new plan, and in a way maybe this is still control, is to not have a plan at least one day per week, and to choose specific things to try not to control. For example it is EXTREMELY difficult for me not to know whether H and I are going on his birthday trip next month. It is now my plan, like a game almost, to try not to mention it for as long as possible. I also don't know if we will be spending time together this weekend, and my usual approach would be to somehow at least insinuate the need to see each other. When I see him for counseling tomorrow, I will not ask any leading questions about weekend activities. This is another plan I guess, with me controlling my own activity, but not the situation...I think in a way I'm not giving up control here, but learning to control myself. Hopefully this is a positive step...
Thanks for posting! ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
